Saturday, March 11, 2006


What is it with beauty, anyway? It’s so hard to get a grasp on this. God put it in us to love beauty, to respond to it. It can’t be wrong to want to BE beautiful, too, can it? And yet—and yet it makes me so self-centered to think about whether or not I’m beautiful.

I see that this is worth a longer meditation sometime.


Kathy said...

Okay, so now you're freaking me out because I have been thinking this EXACT SAME THING recently about beauty. I've thought about Eve being the crowning creation and how, of course, she must be beautiful. Prophets who have seen her in the spirit world have talked about how tall and majestic she is. I'm sure Heavenly Mother is beautiful. Maybe not supermodel-y beautiful, but a perfected body has got to be beautiful. So I have hopes that I'll be better looking someday (although I remember the quote about the prophet--was it J. Smith?-- who met the apostle Paul and he was short, dark, with a big nose....). But I wonder if it will just be because my body will be in a higher state of being, or because I will actually look different, body-shape wise and face-wise??? Will I be tall and slender, with gorgeous hair??? Yet still me? Will my husband eventually have long white hair and a beard??

by the way, you have a beautiful smile!

Darlene said...

Thanks for your comment, Kathy.

It's all just so frustrating, this not knowing how (or whether) to care about our looks. We're supposed to be a thing of beauty, right? But not to enjoy it (vanity) or stress about it. I can't figure it out.

It doesn't help that we have so little in the scriptures to help us. It seems that the scriptures mention when women are "comely," as if it mattered and as if it were a positive thing. It kills me when authority figures introduce speakers: "And President Jones and his lovely wife will then talk . . ." (Would we ever introduce a man that way?)

I was interested in C. S. Lewis's depictions of Eve in his Perelandra books. Of course she was beautiful, but as soon as she noticed it the tone of the book became critical of her.

I've been reading "Lord of the Rings" to A. and B. and paying attention to the women (hardly any, but all beautiful) in it. But then, Tolkien and Lewis were both bachelors for most of their lives, and surrounded by mostly men in their academic careers. Of course they don't know how to speak to and about women.

But who does?

Darlene said...

No, I don't think your husband will have a long white beard. And I wish they would get rid of them on the authority figures in the church movie depictions of visions. It kind of gets in the way of my appreciation.